PIPM: Pretty in Pink Megan: Birth Order Theory

Birth Order Theory

My Mother-in-Law, Jan at Real Raw Women just sent me this interesting article regarding birth order and your compatibility with your mate.

As a former Psychology major, I did a lot of research and study on the Birth Order Theory and how accurate the theory is with couples.

I found it accurate because I am an only-child and Rob is the youngest of 4, having all older sisters.

Interestingly enough, it says that we are the perfect match! haha!

Here is the excerpt from the article:
Did you know that the order you were born into a family can influence your personality and your relationships?

Find out which marriage combinations work best - and how yours compares - in this extract from Dr Kevin Leman's book, The Birth Order Connection. This advice applies to all other intimate relationships too.

Best Birth Order Marriages
Only child and youngest; first-born and youngest; middle child and youngest: Gender plays a role here as well. If you want the absolute best match, it's female only or first-born marrying a male youngest child who has older sisters. The last born with older sisters is going to be the sort of person who brings out the maternal instinct in women, and the oldest sister is likely to have great maternal urges. He would have grown up with girls who have doted on him. This is similar to the treatment he seeks in a wife, and the best place he'll find it is with an oldest sister. The match works both ways. The first-born needs someone to show her pleasures of sunsets, rainbows, and to remind her that it can be fun to let her mind wander and do something mad or different. The last-born needs someone to show him that while having fun is a wonderful thing, it takes hard work and perseverance to make those daydreams into reality.

First-born married to a first-born: This relationship is likely to be high friction - either butting heads from day one, or falling into a controller-pleaser pattern. It can be difficult to make this pairing work.

First-born married to a middle child: The danger here is that the middle-born may alter his or her own behaviour to please the first-born. While the middle one makes a good match for anyone (except, perhaps, for another middle), she may find the first-born to be somewhat intimidating and thus will need drawing out. If you marry a hard-driving first-born, you may be inclined to give up your own desires and dreams to please your more dominant, first-born spouse. However, if you have last-born tendencies, this can be a very good match for you.

First-born married to the last-born: This relationship is an excellent combination. First-born can teach last-born how to be better organised and that there are times when life must be taken seriously. The last-born teaches the first-born that it's okay to have fun once in a while.
Read more: How your birth order affects your romantic compatibility http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/famfri/family/articles/0,,163_559971,00.html#ixzz0vfE68191
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Was it right about you and your mate?

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Laura said...

i'm the first born in my family and my husband is the youngest of 4. it works!

Laura said...

Hmm, I'm a first born and so is my husband which they say is bad. I don't think it is accurate since things are going pretty good but I do think that the idea that first borns are more responsbile and planners is very true of both of us.

Ronda said...

You are right! I was first born and my husband was last born. We have been married almost 30 yours! I have been with him since I was 17! Thanks :)

sparrowsandsparkles said...

LOL - I think it's right on. I'm a first born married to a last born. :)

Anonymous said...

I don't believe in astrology or anything but this is something I definitely believe in. I'm not married- but believe it or not, I look for this when on the prowl! ;)

Brooke said...

My ex and I were both first-borns and it was definitely accurate for us. Butting heads from day one until the last day. That could have also been caused by our stubborness though haha.

Thanks for posting this!

Nicole Marie said...

wow interesting. i'll have to keep that in mind in finding my future husband

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Veronika said...

interesting. I'm an only child married to my first-born husband who has one sister. I actually find this to be the perfect combo for me.

Chloe said...

Not sure 'cuz I'm a twin. I kind of think twins get their own bizarre little category.

Otherwise known as, "You'll never REALLY get the secret joke and laugh with us, so you might as well laugh at us." Both of our husbands follow this rule and hey! It works.


(Interestingly, though, my sister married a first born and I married a last born...)

Anonymous said...

Too funny! I'm the first-born as is my hubby so like the article says, we butt heads quite a bit because we are both stubborn and strong-willed, which are both traits of first-born kiddos. Thankfully, it works!

Brittany said...

This does not describe us. It is true that as the oldest sister that I have strong maternal urges, but my husband is also the first born and we do not have the friction and headbutting or controller-pleaser situation (both of which I think would have come out by now, we've been together six years). I agree very much with Laura's comment above that we are both very responsible and are both extreme planners, and because we have so many common values and beliefs and experiences, we work as a team.

Hallie said...

I am the oldest and Elle Woods is a middle child. It works okay for us.

chelsea said...

My husband is an only child to HIS parents, who both remarried, so he has a younger sister and an older sister. So he's all types: oldest with his mom, middle in the blended family, youngest to his dad, and only to his mom AND dad. I'm the first-born. I'm not sure how this one applies to us, but we're happy so I'll take it! :)

M said...

R and I are both first-born. And, much like your chart says, we both are opinionated to the point of being both argumentative and obnoxious. Hello, we met in poli sci/pre-law classes in undergrad! Anyway, we make it work because we tune out a lot of each other's soapboxing. :)

What a fascinating post. R's mom has a couple of books on the subject, too, but I never really paid attention to them before.

molldoll said...

I totally believe in this stuff...but my husband and I are both first borns (which they don't recommend) but it works for us, because we are alike in so many ways.

I think the birth order theory is interesting. I totally see people exhibit the tendencies of their birth order (oldest, youngest, only, etc).

Emily (The Culinary Couple) said...

So true! I'm the first born girl married to the youngest boy, and I must say we're a good match :)

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